Marriage & family therapy · San Clemente & California
Why is my marriage this hard? Why can't I talk to my kid anymore? What is wrong with me?
The questions pile up, but when you try to say any of it out loud, it comes out wrong, comes out small, or doesn't come out at all. There's a reason for that.
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In personDowntown San Clemente
OnlineThroughout California
A place to startA free consultation
Where it shows up
A relationship that feels stuck. Anxiety that follows you around. A change you didn't choose. You can start with what you know, or with the question you can't quite name.
For teens and adults in the middle of anxiety, trauma, grief, self-harm recovery, or a faith that stopped working. You might know exactly what you want help with, or need room to work out where to begin.
Learn more →By now, you can both recite the fight from memory—even when it begins with something as small as the dishes.
Learn more →For families where one person seems to be the problem. They are rarely the only one. A family is a system, and when one part of the pattern shifts, the change ripples through everyone.
Learn more →For men dealing with relationships, career, fatherhood, and the fallout of changes they didn't plan. Many of the men Ryan sees have never had a room where the answer to “How's it going?” could be anything other than “Good.”
Work with Ryan →Concentrated trauma work with Jennie. Longer sessions allow time for preparation, processing, and integration without stopping simply because fifty minutes have passed. Some work needs more room than a weekly session can give it.
Learn more →The people in the room
We're married, parents of four, and different therapists. What we share is a commitment to provide a safe place for others to find their own lonely way in the world.
Meet Jennie
Motherhood, parenting, and couples
You want support with motherhood or parenting, including space to understand your own needs and reactions.
Motherhood & maternal mental health · Parenting support · Couples therapy · Teen mental health
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Meet Ryan
Men, fathers, families, and professionals
You're experiencing burnout, feeling stuck, or overwhelmed.
Men's therapy · Burnout · Anxiety · Leadership and career stress
Get to know Ryan →One part of the work
Sometimes the difficulty is a conversation, a feeling, or a painful experience. Sometimes it reaches further: the way you made sense of your life no longer fits the life you're living.
Something you were handed—or built over time—was supposed to account for your family, your faith, your marriage, yourself. It gave out slowly enough that you filed each failure separately, and most of them under your own name.
Eventually there are too many to file.
The frame that broke is the same one you would use to explain the break. So it comes out as a mess, or smaller than it is, and the failure to say it becomes one more thing wrong with you.
We start there. Where you got the frame, what it made possible, where it gave out, and what still feels true now. That last one is usually the thing nobody has asked you.
Groups & Workshops
Groups for parents, couples, and adults navigating change. Workshops for the questions your community is asking.
Explore groups & workshops →Help shape what comes next
We’re always forming new groups. Add your name to the areas you care about, and when enough people share an interest we’ll set the details and email you first.
Our four-week support group for parents navigating a child’s mental health crisis and treatment forms new cohorts throughout the year. Read about it.
Join the interest list →Essays & Podcast
The Unfolding is where we write and talk about identity, faith, relationships, and the seasons that rearrange a life. Read for a while. Listen to us talk. Get a sense of how we think and what we do with questions that don't resolve neatly.
“I don’t think one conversation repairs years of learning to doubt yourself.”
“It is hard to see the frame while you’re living inside it.”
A short call or a longer in-person conversation to say what's going on and see whether one of us is a fit.
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